Coffee with Feuza Reis

Fifty Cups of Coffee #22: Feuza Reis
Date: May 31, 2024
Location: San Sebastian, Spain

How we know each other

Feuza, AKA “Fuse,” and I first met at the TBEX conference in Phuket, Thailand in 2022. It was so great to reconnect at TBEX in San Sebastian, Spain this summer!

What Feuza is doing now

Feuza lives in South Florida with her husband and they have three kids. She is a travel creator at Fusetravels.com and partnerships manager at Stay 22.

Three questions

During these Fifty Cups of Coffee chats, I ask each person the same three questions. The reasoning behind each is as follows:

Question 1 – Social media makes it easy for other people to think that they know us, when truthfully, we all only see a small sliver of someone’s life and who they really are. This is the interviewee’s chance to share something that is important to them that, for whatever reason, other people may not know.

Question 2 – We all have fears, no matter who are are or where we are in life. This helps connect us and show we are all more alike than we are different.

Question 3 – I believe the answer to this question helps show each person’s true values, passions, and their why in life.

There are no right or wrong answers to any of these. I’m including each person’s answers in first person. Their answers have been edited from my notes for length and clarity, but these are their words.

What is one thing you wish more people knew about you?

“One thing that has come up this week (during the TBEX conferece) that I wish more people knew is that I’m sensitive. I’m very extroverted – I’m a Brazilian who grew up in Jersey, so I’m very loud, there’s lots of flair. I was never an athlete, never the popular girl – I was the comic. So comedy has helped me a lot in life. My core value is connecting people, and because I’m an extrovert and kind of loud, people don’t know I’m also very sensitive. I’m also very literal so I don’t always understand jokes.”

“And as I get older, I am an extrovert but I don’t want to be out all the time. I need quiet. I’ve also learned with life that it’s ok to say no, that I don’t have to always go go go, or be a certain way because other people expect you to be a certain way.”

What is your deepest fear?

“One thing I am working on is lack of self worth. I’m in therapy now and being an immigrant kid, it affected me. We migrated when I was 6 and growing up without a dad affected me more than i thought. It’s not quite imposter syndrome, it’s” I’m not good at anything” syndrome. So it’s rewiring my mind.”

“So my biggest fear is giving into the negative self-talk or giving up on myself. It’s hard work, when you’ve had to rewire your way of thinking. You have to remind yourself you’re in control of your destiny in life. It’s okay not to be good at everything. This overwhelming need for validation from others. You were born in this world alone and probably going to go alone. Yes: love your family, your people, hard. But at the end of the day, if nobody likes you, you need to be ok with you. My biggest fear would be not doing that. I’m constantly working on myself. I have learned about manifestation the last three years, and how to never make a decision when you’re down because you’re not going to make the right decision when you’re down – you get desperate. It’s a reminder for me not to do that.”

If you had unlimited funds, what would you do with your life?

“I would be living in Italy for sure and I would have property that would be a wedding venue which would also have mini stay. My husband would have a restaurant or bar and we would be meeting people all the time from all over the world. I would be doing a lot of travel. I’d have a nice house and need a chef for sure that would make yummy delicious things. Plus I’d have someone do my hair at my house every week – that’s a dream. I would be taking more care of myself as far as my health, like having a personal trainer, playing pickle ball.”

“I’d definitely be giving back and working on some social projects. I have a big love for seniors and older people. I’d definitely pay for my kids’ educations and not feel the stress of it. I’d make sure my kids were taken care of.”

“I’d also pay off my mom’s house and make sure that she’s good. I would have a stylist pick out my outfits for the week so I don’t have to think about it. I’d fly business class only or have private transfers everywhere and not worry about how many pounds my luggage is and I’d have the latest bougie luggage.”

Lessons Learned

I had such a great time reconnecting with Fuse in San Sebastian! Here are the biggest takeaways from our chat:

• Extroverts are people too – I loved Fuse’s answer to the first question because I can totally relate. We’re both extroverts who are very sensitive and need quiet time. Just because you always see us out and about doesn’t mean we’re always – or that we want to be – out and about! We discussed how we love to travel, but when we’re home, it’s comfy clothes and quiet time.
• Living abroad – Fuse and I have both talked about moving to Italy someday, and she was just there sending me WhatsApp messages about 1Euro homes she found (my husband, if you didn’t know, has been obsessed with 1 Euro homes in Italy for years!!). I think there’s a good number of us who love to travel that are moving into the empty nest years looking at different countries to live in or live the nomad expat life in.
• “At the end of the day, you need to be okay with you.” – As a recovering people pleaser, this quote hit me hard. I appreciate Fuse sharing so much because I think anybody reading this can related to her answer to the second question.

Thanks for taking the time to chat with me for the Fifty Cups of Coffee Project, Fuse!

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You can visit Fuse’s website – Fusetravels.com

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